10 Tips for A Lasting Marriage

We can’t forget how helpful it is to hear the wisdom of our other halves. Below is a message from Heather Marie Harrison, wife of Daniel Harrison posted on her personal blogging page regarding some personal tips for marriage.


10 Tips for A Lasting Marriage

Below are 10 Milestones my husband and I have discovered during our 5-years of covenant with one another. I hope you find encouragement in whatever He ministers to you through these insights!

1) Jesus Christ is the Foundation and Leader (Deny yourself– daily; HE is the final authority)

2) Don’t give up on your spouse

3) Love yourself (not in contradiction with #1, Matt 22:39)

4) Love your spouse

5) Divorce isn’t an option for us

6) Spiritual Growth is key for a healthy marriage

7) Choose to be “for” your spouse and make it CLEAR that you are.

8) Human beings have a natural design to desire to be known and a default to hide; in order for your spouse to be “for” you, you must present yourself vulnerable, open and honest… No matter how “ugly” you think “it” is in your heart. (Don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re protecting your spouse by keeping secrets).

9) There is a promise for healing of reoccurring sin. It may surprise you. Many of us Christ-followers assume since we are connected directly to the Almighty and Creator God, Overcomer of sin and death, Healer and Savior of the world, that we can be healed just in the private relationship between you and Him. However, check out the formula He gives us regarding this topic found in James 5:16.

10) Forgiveness wins. patience wins. kindness wins. love wins. even when the other person is not playing. Luke 6:32-36 (see Why Not to Bank On Love)

by Heather Marie Harrison
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The following script is a blog written by Daniel Harrison explaining Church 212’s Men’s Ministry, “Multiplying Men.” To hear more, follow our podcast here.


Preface
Before you dive into this article on re-thinking men’s ministry I want to make one simple thing clear: this men’s ministry is comprised of two types of gatherings–the large group fellowships and small group life. Although, we place emphasis Christian community and invitation to small groups, you don’t have to be in a small group to be apart of our ministry. We will have many crowd opportunities for men to hang and have a good time. If you are a male, there are no limitations–you are apart of this!

RE-THINKING MEN’S MINISTRY
I’m confident to say that most Christians want to see a church that’s alive—a church that truly changes the culture around it with the good news of Jesus Christ. With the increasing social issues of today, the urgency of biblical male leadership may not have ever been greater. Many eagerly desire change in our world—but if it does not start with biblical manhood supporting the way, it has already ended.

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“Multiplying Men is a nurturing ground for men to discover the call of biblical manhood and passionately pursue their Christ-given design—Christ-centered leadership.” @MultiplyingMen

What is Multiplying Men and why does it exist? I will lay this out as succinctly, yet necessarily, as possible in three simple points: authority, method, and invitation.

Authority
It must be stated—the responsibility to carry on Christ’s work in the earth fall’s first, on no other, than the man. Since the foundation of the world, leadership responsibility has been given to the man. As we have seen, Adam the first man, didn’t do a very good job at leading God’s people. His leadership failure subjected the entire world to sin and death. (Genesis 3:17-19)

Thankfully, we serve a God who is rich in love and mercy and sent his Son Jesus to live the sinless life we never could, die the death we deserved, and lead the way to eternal life. Just before Christ ascended into heaven, He said something very powerful, “All authority in heaven and on earth belongs to me. Therefore go…” (Matthew 28:18)

We cannot miss this powerful truth—upon the redemption of His people, also came the distribution of His authority. Christ the head of all authority—has given his authority to his people. He said, “all authority in heaven and on earth belongs to me.” The delegation then, is clear when he said, “therefore go.” The power of the Gospel has not been given to any president, government, nor congressmen. It has been given to the Church.

So, we want to see the Gospel of Jesus Christ change our culture? We must first recognize that this good news has been entrusted and laid upon the men and woman whom Christ gave it to. 1 Timothy 6:20

I want to be clear that the great commission is given to both men and woman—for there were both and women present at Jesus’ Great Commission benediction; and a follower of Christ includes any person committed to his Lordship. But the man, as “head of his wife” has a distinct obligation to exemplify the headship of Christ. Consider it simply: “man is the Glory of Christ and the woman is the Glory of man.” 1 Corinthians 11:17

We cannot expect our wives and children (much less our community) to operate well under our authority, if we are not exemplifying, submitting to, and following our own—Christ. With the mandate to the men, we must consider the means.

Method
When we think “men’s ministry,” we often think about doing large group events like BBQ’s, retreats, game nights, camping, etc. As these are important facets of men’s ministry, they are not the foundation. The foundation of real and effective ministry is what takes place in the ongoing setting that occasional “events” cannot adequately provide. It is the “doing life” together—the safe sanctuary of transparency, accountability, and stability that a Gospel-centered brotherly relationship nurtures.

Tweet This: “What if, instead of just scheduling various large group events attended by men, we created multiple small groups led by men?” @MultiplyingMen

What if every man actually saw himself as a “sent one” living on mission? What if every man were committed to being both discipled and a disciple-maker? What if men were honest with each other about their struggles? What if men readily aided one another through life’s realest problems? What if we prayed together, broke bread together, fellowshipped together, and studied the word together?

I’ll tell you what would happen. Because this is exactly what happened in the early church when 12 men gathered and said, “we must not neglect important matters such as prayer and ministry of the world” Acts 6:2. So they did just that and the result was phenomenal: “So the word of God spread. The number of disciples in Jerusalem increased rapidly, and a large number of priests became obedient to the faith.”

Imagine if our men did this. The Word of God would spread in our communities, disciples would increase rapidly, and many would be saved—in other words—our churches would be strong, healthy, and most importantly our churches would—grow.

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“Never underestimate the power of men who lead.” @MultiplyingMen

Invitation
The invitation on the table is for every man to do 1 of two things:

Host a group:
Open up your home and invite people from your work places, family, friends, or even people from church. Upon joining the MM community as a host, we will assist you in taking your first group through a book we provide. After the initial community study, you may take your group through a book of your choosing that is approved by us. Once you have been approved to host a group, your name will appear on this listings portion of this website and our staff will serve alongside and assist you in funneling people into your group.

Join a group:
If you’d like to be apart of a men’s group, follow the link and we will connect you to a group just right for you! Whether it is inclusive to men or another facet of small group ministry.

Every January, we will collectively go through the same selected study material as an MM community. At other times, the leaders of various groups can choose their own materials. Overall, MM is an umbrella of men’s ministry that convenes at the small group level  (for ongoing spiritual development) but celebrates and fellowships at large group gatherings.

Conclusion
It is that simple. It doesn’t matter what church you attend or how old you are. As a 28-year-old young man, I must say to those older than I—we need you. I am reaching up to you, asking you to reach back to us. If you are a man, (or even if you are unsure—this is not a joke—this is sincerely a place for you to come be transparent and find help, identity, and healing) this is for you. Let’s be catalysts for the change we want to see.

If it doesn’t start with biblical manhood, it has already ended.

Daniel Harrison
Founder of MM / 212 Worship Pastor
DanielsWorship.com
@DanielsWorship @MultiplyingMen

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Serving the vision of Church 212, Multiplying Men is a community of men exploring the design of biblical manhood and multiplication. We host both large group events and small group gatherings. Join the community!