Category Archives: Sexual Brokeness

What Are You Feeding On?

The following post is written by market place leader, Kim Harrell. Kim is National Sales Manager for All Weather Insulated Panels ( Kim is passionate about biblical manhood, disciple-making, and following Jesus.

He is a great example how God calls us from our very livelihoods, leveraging our occupations, for the spread of the Gospel, both in our local cities, and to the ends of the earth. Stay connected for more from Kim.

What are you feeding on?

What we take into our mind, into our heart, and into our soul becomes the foundation for our character. We can literally store good in our heart. But in order to fill our heart with good stuff, we need to post a guard to keep the bad stuff out.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23

This is a verse that all of us as men should know and apply in our lives. This needs to be memorized and put into practice. We need to be very careful of exactly what we allow into our heart.

The truth is: We cannot “unsee” things. Once we have experienced something – especially visually – it can be a difficult emotional and spiritual battle to push out of our minds. Sometimes I wish I could zip off the top of my skull and pressure wash my brain to erase memories I have from my past. But, unfortunately we can’t do that.

Getting to the core

The caution of guarding our heart goes to the core of what we are feeding on. We can’t simply avoid or flee from certain thoughts and behaviors – we must also pursue those things that are God-honoring and will help to develop our character. The Bible cautions us to guard our heart and it also encourages us on what to focus on:

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. Philippians 4:8

What we dwell on will determine our thought life and ultimately develop our character. Many of us often feed on the wrong things. The television, magazines, internet sites, movies, music and other media that we take in, result in patterns of thought. These thoughts result in our behaviors and habits.

No matter what condition we find ourselves in today, Paul tells us that there is hope:

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Romans 12:2

Paul encourages us that we can actually renew our mind and transform our character with the help of God’s Spirit and through our own personal diligence. It is rarely a huge event that affects us.

Tweet: It is hundreds of little events and choices over a period of time that shapes our behavior. -Kim Harrell @multiplyingmen

So What?

What are we feeding on?

  • Do we need accountability with our computer?
  • Do we need to rethink the movies and music we enjoy?
  • Pause to ask ourselves during the day: Is what I am doing right now helping to develop Christ-like character?


Lord, help me to guard my heart. I need your strength and wisdom to make the proper choices. I need men in my life who are serious about their faith to encourage me and keep me accountable. Lord, help me to learn and grow to pursue the things that You would pursue. Help me to fill my heart with what is true, right and honorable and push the negative and harmful stuff out. I pray that I could grow in the character of Your Son.Amen.

Kim Harrell
National Sales Manager
All Weather Insulated Panels
Follower of Christ

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Don’t Sell Yourself Short: You Were Made For Greatness

The following post was written by Shana Howard, Small Group Pastor of Church 212 in Palm Desert, Ca.

Don’t Sell Yourself Short: You Were Made For Greatness

One day, I was reading a book at my community pool. Close by in the Jacuzzi, were two guys talking. These men were strangers and had struck up a conversation. They were talking so loud I could hear every word. But trying to read, I attempted to tune them out.

However, due to their volume and subject matter, I was unable. Their discussion was about how they could use women for their own sexual gratification.

The older man (in his 60’s) was sharing with the younger guy (in his 40’s) how he was getting a bride from another country, set up in an apartment, so he could use her sexually however he wanted. He was telling his new friend how he should do the same—that he doesn’t even need to marry her, just string her along and hide her away somewhere.

The younger engaged the conversation. It got more graphic as more women were discussed with more ways to get away with “using them.”

My next move

As you can imagine being a woman, I was aghast. I was so uncomfortable sitting there and wasn’t sure what to do. Honestly, I was disgusted at their conversation and wanted to chew them out on behalf of all women but decided to mind my own business.

As I’m not one to confront strangers, I packed up to leave. Until, of course, the Holy Spirit compelled me to address the situation.

Tweet: “Nothing changes if Christians don’t say anything. You are the light to darkness.” – Shana Howard

Gulp. I didn’t want to actually confront these guys. I was nervous.

But then God flooded me with love and compassion for these men. He gave me exactly what to talk to them about and I loved what God had to say. He wanted me to tell them they were made for greatness. God didn’t want me to chew them out, he wanted me to call them out and into where their lives would be fulfilled and meaningful. He didn’t want me to say what they couldn’t do, but rather share with them what they could do.

So I nervously approached and interrupted their conversation. With conviction and compassion, I said something like, “I couldn’t help but overhear you talking. You were made for more than using these women…”

The older guy interrupts me and tells me to mind my own business. But I continue with passion and tenderness, “You were made for greatness. You were made to honor women and protect them. You were made for so much more than you are giving yourself.”

The older man scoffed while the younger man apologized for offending me. I continued sharing with them God had great plans to do through them. Great things.

Protecting the weak and defenseless

These choices were preventing them from experiencing true greatness by God’s hand. I reminded them as men, they were designed to protect the weak and defenseless. They were to be men like they saw in the movie’s Braveheart and Gladiator; men of purpose, heroic and great. The older man continued to scoff but the younger man waved him off and said, “I need to hear this.”

So I reiterated what I was saying making sure to use the phrase God had given me to say to them, “You were made for greatness.” The younger guy thanked me and the older man apologized for his inappropriate use of language in front of me.

I was witnessing this scripture come to life in that moment, “The kindness of God leads man to repentance” (Romans 2:4). I don’t remember my parting words, but I left those two men praying in my mind, “God press those words deep in their heart, “You were made for greatness.”

Bring them to remembrance when they go to do things in darkness. Give them hope there is another way to live. Reveal your Son Jesus to them. Help them to become men you desire.

Men that honor, protect and glorify you.”

Your takeaway

I share this story with you guys to remind you, “YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATNESS.” God wants to do great things in you and through you.

I have no idea what might be hindering you from having all that God has planned for you but I pray as you read this, He speaks to you–that the Holy Spirit calls you out and into a better life of purpose.

Whether you feel complacent or unworthy because of past choices or deeds of darkness, KNOW THIS: there is a God of Hope. He wants to strengthen you to live for His glory. Call upon the name of the Lord and He will help.

Brothers, I am cheering you on. Rise up! Take hold of the great position God has given you. Be a man! Battle for good! Go for it! Enjoy your New Year!

Your sister in Christ,

Shana Howard
Small Group Pastor, Church 212

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