Category Archives: Headship

The Role Of Biblical Manhood Lesson 1: Defining Manhood

It seems the meaning of manhood is misconstrued in our culture. Just turn on any television show and the man looks like a moron. I’ll admit, it’s pretty funny to watch the humor these days. But as the years pass, these images set the model for our children on what manhood (and womanhood) looks like.

When young men ask “what is manhood?,” They will develop their answer by the role models in their homes, or who they see in Hollywood. On both sides, there’s a desperate need to display a true image and practice of biblical manhood.

How do we define it?

So how do we define manhood? How one person characterizes it may be entirely different from another. This is why we must have one standard by which we define all things—Scripture.

I heard a student once say,

The Bible is a thing of the past. This is the future and we must build on a modern way of thinking. —Critical Thinking Classmate

This is our problem today. As culture changes, so do our standards of morality—we don’t know what’s right and wrong anymore because it always changes.

Think of it like this. A desk 6,000 years from now will not suddenly become a pencil. It will always be a desk. Why? Because whoever designed it, intended for it to be—a desk.

In the same way, no man should attempt to redefine something God already defined. Since God is the designer of manhood, only he defines it. Since he designed feminism, only he can define it.

I believe if more Christian men (and women) would look to God’s word and discover their image as he intended it, and exemplify it practically in their lives, the world would be a better place today.

Why does it matter?

Why does it matter if we exemplify biblical manhood or not? The answer is simple. God has called the man to lead. So if men don’t know what that looks like biblically, how can they truly lead?

We’ve heard in John 10:10 that Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy. But what was the first thing he stole in all of history? The answer is man’s headship. Satan knew if he could ruin man’s leadership ability, he could destroy our families and ultimately ruin the planet. Look around today, he has done a good job.

However, redemption has been made, and now it’s time to take back our dominion. Although Christ has made a clear pathway, many haven’t found it and thereby fail to lead.

What’s next

In a new blog series on The Role Of Biblical Manhood, we will unpack the meaning of biblical manhood the way God has designed it. We will see Scripturally what went wrong, and what Christ did to restore it. Lastly, we will find practical ways to live it out in our daily lives.

I invite you to be courageous on this new journey— to be men who lead. We all want to see change in our communities, workplaces, and families—but if it doesn’t start with biblical manhood, it has already ended.

Let’s lead.

Daniel Harrison
Church 212
Worship Pastor

The REAL Man

Return weekly for blogs from our various writers: The following blog is written by Senior Pastor of Church 212, Mike Harrison, on Real Biblical Manhood.

We desire to help men grow into REAL MANHOOD.

“The REAL HUMAN is the being that came from the hand of God, unspoiled by sin and the fall.”

In a very real sense, the only true human beings were Adam and Eve before the fall, and Jesus. All the others are twisted, distorted, corrupted, samples of humanity. It therefore is necessary to look at humans in their original state and at Christ if we would correctly assess what it means to be human” (Erickson, Introduction to Christian Theology, 162).

Obviously, sin caused a twisted view of what a TRUE human is to look like and manhood has followed suit. The true definition of manhood has been lost within our culture. It is not uncommon for men to be cast as “idiots…clueless..the joke” of most cartoons, sitcoms, romantic comedies and the like. Few men have had role models to mentor them in what real manhood looks like. In Erickson’s statement there are only three perfect humans: Adam & Eve, and Jesus.

Adam & Eve
We do not have a lot of knowledge about Adam & Eve before sin entered their lives. The original couple were made “in His (God’s) image and in His likeness”. We know BEFORE the Fall they were shameless and walked with God. We also know man and woman were in harmony with each other. Adam had a superior intellect because he is commissioned to name all of the animals. Beyond that we don’t have much more information. But we do have Jesus. He is said to be, “the Word made flesh and dwelt among us…” which is God’s Person and thoughts animated so we could know God’s acts & ways (John 1:14 – 18).

We can read about Jesus throughout the Bible. In the Old testament we read His pre-history; prophecies about who he would be and what He would do when he comes to earth. In the New Testament we have four eye-witness accounts (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John) of His life and Passion; in Acts His work in the Early Church; and throughout the Epistles of Paul, Peter, James , John & Jude we have His life explained; in Revelation we learn all about Him and His final dealings with mankind. We study the life of Jesus Christ as our model of true humanity.

“We are seeking to multiply men who act like, respond like, and live like Jesus.” -Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

The New Testament is replete with stories of how Jesus encountered problems, interacted with people, and his personal teachings about how to live our lives. Watching Him through the pages of Scripture, and hearing Him teach through biblical writings we can learn how to be men…REAL MEN. For instance, as Paul teaches, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25 NIV). This is very different from our cultural norms that have men who are self-seeking, self-made and look out for number one (self). Selflessness is a trait which Jesus exhibited throughout His life and modeled for us to follow. This is just one example of how we learn about Jesus and follow His lead.

As we listen and act on what we learn about Jesus, we begin to be transformed into His image (Romans 8:29). That’s the kind of men we want to multiply.

Join, or start a small group, to study the Bible and interact with other godly men who are all encouraging one another to be like Christ and seek to PRACTICE DAILY what they LEARN about Him.” -Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

In the process you will become A REAL MAN.

Written by Dr. Mike Harrison
Lead Pastor Church 212

Time is Running Out


That is the approximate amount of weeks that a parent has with their child from birth until they graduate from high school.

Tweet: 936. That is the approximate amount of weeks a parent has with their child from birth until they graduate from high school. @JCarroll212

You have been waiting nine months and finally you are holding that small, soft, and helpless being that you helped to create; one of the most amazing of God’s miracles lies quietly (hopefully) asleep in your arms, and time seems to stand still to let you soak it all in.

Fast-forward to today, as a now veteran parent, you know that was the last time that has ever happened. Your world now consists of taking kids to school, picking them up, getting them to soccer, baseball and/or gymnastics and ballet.

You run frantically trying to figure out when to find time for homework, extra practice before the big game on Saturday, and what to eat for dinner tonight; and that was just Monday.

Our world today is full of stuff and many times you may feel that even though you are with your kids, there is a lack of quality time! The number 936 that use to seem huge when they were little, now it gets smaller and smaller, the bigger they get.

The good news is that you are not alone; this is a problem that all parents everywhere struggle with. I am not an expert and I won’t pretend that all of these ideas are exclusively mine. But I can attest from experience that these ideas do work. Here are three ways to improve quality time with your children.

Be intentional

I have a 14-year-old daughter and 9-year-old son and the reality is, the older my kids get, the busier their lives get, and the more intentional I have to be if I want to have influence in their lives.

At our church we use a kids curriculum from the ReThink Group called, “Orange.” One of the verses they use is Deuteronomy 6:6-9 which says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.”

Now you may be wary of binding things on the foreheads of your kids, but the principles in these verses should definitely become practices for parents who want to impact their kids.

Use dinner time (when you sit at home, vs7) to talk about their day and then interject Biblical truth when the opportunity arises.

We don’t walk places as much anymore but what about those car rides to school, to practice, and to run errands? What a great time (when you walk along the road), to grab a kids devotional and have them read a page out of it and discuss it or say a quick prayer about a situation they are dealing with.

Eventually children have to sleep and this down time is a great time to model how to pray or to read them a verse or two before the day is over.

The point is, there are times in our day that instead of just going about the task that is at hand, you can use them to impact the lives of your kids.

Connect with your kids on their level and at their interests

There was a time in my life where I enjoyed firing up the old Nintendo Entertainment System and trying to punch out Mike Tyson, but as a now 40-year-old man those days are gone. Not necessarily because it wouldn’t be fun but because sadly my video game time passed when they added more than two buttons.

My son on the other hand is a video game savant; he usually can beat his newest game in two days flat. I have found that even though I am terrible at video games, it can be a great time to bond and hang out with my son. When my boy is older, hopefully he will think about what a great time he had whooping up on is dad at whatever game it was and cherish those moments as much as I do now.


If you are the parent of a teenage girl, then you know how difficult and honestly, painful listening can be at times. You undoubtedly will learn and be given more information than you ever wanted in one conversation.

You will now know about every relationship in the entire school. You will be privy to who the teacher is that no one likes because of the amount of homework they give.

You will learn what your teenager is passionate about and what they absolutely cannot stand. Luke 6:45 says, “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” When you spend time listening to your children, you get to know what is in their hearts. And just so you know that listening to all those seemingly pointless discussions are worth it, someone once said, “if you will take the time to listen to the small things, your kids will come to you with the big things.”


The number gets smaller everyday that your kids are alive, but hopefully you realize that there is still time to have a great impact on the lives of your kids.

Jeremy Carroll
Assistant Pastor
Church 212

When Men Say Too Much

The following blog is written by Dr. Rich Frazer, President of SOS International, a global leadership-equipping ministry. He also writes a bi-monthly article for the Desert Christian News in the Coachella Valley.

When Men Say Too Much

I talk too much. I also write too much. For a 650 word article like this, I will write 2500 and whittle out what is inappropriately illustrative, self-amusing or exalting, and extraneous. Real writers call that downsizing, “Murdering Your Darlings.” It’s as heartless as it sounds.

My excessive verbal capacities surfaced again a few years ago during a rather disconcerting encounter with an Arizona State Highway Patrol Officer. While traveling to Phoenix with my good friend from India, the officer pulled me over for a chat.

He informed me of a state law that asserts if a be-lighted emergency vehicle is parked on the side of the highway, it is mandatory, not to mention courteous, for the motorist to shift his/her car or truck over a lane away from that side of the road so as not to pose a danger to inhabitants of the stopped vehicles.

That was news to me.

While the patrolman and I were getting acquainted next to his patrol car, behold, a car and driver in violation of the aforementioned statute sped by us in the forbidden zone – the rebellious driver likely chuckling over my demise. The officer looked up from his notepad on which he was writing a warning, shook his head and said, “There goes another one,” to which quickly I recommended, “Don’t let him get away! You better go NOW and catch him!”

He said not a word. He just gave me “the look.”

I was able to make a comeback, though. I got him laughing and telling me about the interesting and bizarre he has seen on his roadway beat. Then the thought occurred to me – and I verbalized it out loud (redundant, I know), “You could keep yourself busy all day stopping people who don’t know that law.” He nodded and grinned in hearty agreement. I was making a comeback with this guy. And just at that moment there existed the occasion to say no more and save face.

But I just couldn’t keep my trap shut. That would be so – un MAN-ly.

Without skipping a beat or stopping long enough to take a breath, I blathered, “But if you chased down all those cars, then you wouldn’t have time to go to the… (DON’T SAY IT!!) . . . Donut shop.”

Moronic, huh? I know.

That “darling” should have been assassinated. Our fellowship ended. We were not going to be friends. There was no comeback. He would no longer be humored. He completed his paperwork and I would soon be on my way. Before dispatching me he asked if I had anything illegal in my vehicle.

In my final attempt to lighten this awkward conversation, I told him in jest that I wasn’t sure about my Indian friend. I think he was referring more to implements like guns, drugs, rockets. He eyeballed me one more time, shook his head, and assured me he was not the INS.

As he walked back to the car, a verse came to my mind that I should have thought of prior to this encounter on the Arizona thoroughfare:

With many words transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise (Proverbs 10:19).

Men, our words can get us into big trouble! Though our female counterparts get more press as the chattier gender, on average generating twice the number of words per day than the average guy, we still can get into an equal or greater trouble operating at half their capacity.

I think I can save us from a lot of embarrassment, misunderstandings and explanations, guys, were we to heed those words penned by the wisest man who ever lived. Here’s a few bytes of advice to keep us biting our tongues:

Murder the darlings.

When you’ve formulated that perfect retaliatory retort that will put her – or whomever – in her place, advance your competitive edge or stroke your ego, bury it.

Some things ARE better left unsaid.

Swallowing your pride is not fattening. Stifling your self-promoting blather does not stunt your growth. We’re to crucify the flesh (and all that goes with it) and speak “only such a word that builds others up and is appropriate for the need of the moment and will promote grace in those who hear.” (Ephesians 4:29).

Tweet: “Words are not to be misused to destroy, but to promote others in appropriate ways at appropriate times” – Dr. Rich Frazer @multiplyingmen

Say Less.

“Restrain your lips,” as our wise-man counselor tutors, and you’ll be wise. It’s been said that it’s better to be keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.

Listen up. Everything you’re going to say, you already know. To learn and gain wisdom, you have to pay attention. To discover and understand, you must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger . . . (James 1:19).

OK, Guys. Get out there and strengthen, bless and promote those around you – especially your children, grandchildren, co-workers, and, especially your special lady – with your timely and well-spoken words

When men say too much

Dr. Rich Frazer
President of SOS International

Wives Submit!

In more than 35 years of pastoral ministry I haven’t met a man, married or unmarried, who couldn’t quote this biblical phrase from Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, Submit!” Oh, they may even be un-churched, unsaved, but they knew women are “supposed” to submit to men.

I heard a nationally known preacher once say, “Women, accept it, you are inferior to men.” Of course, in 2015 he would be taken out “behind the wood shed” BY WOMEN!

Why does the Bible say things like this? Isn’t this one of the reasons people say the Bible is so outdated? Could God have been thinking about this century or was he even aware culture would change and we would need a Book that can change with the times? Let me address this last set of questions first.

Truth is truth no matter the age or century.
We know mathematical truth is true throughout eons of time. The laws of physics remain untouched. The Bible is timeless truth written by men who were inspired by the Hoy Spirit.

The Bible is a Divine/human document. Both the words and writers are inspired by God THEREFORE the Bible is “God’s infallible Word”. That settled; let’s now answer this question, “Did God really say, ‘Wives Submit’?”

Tweet: That settled; let’s now answer this question, “Did God really say, ‘Wives Submit’?”

Let’s read the passage in its context: Ephesians 5:21 – 24 NIV 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

In this passage we discover, YES, He said women are to “submit to their own husbands in EVERYTHING.” We probably need to start with a working definition of “submit”.

The word means to “yield the right of way”. Have you ever gone to an intersection and seen a YIELD sign. We learn this means let the other person go first then it’s your turn. Great you say, “then I get to choose whatever the family gets to do and everyone can take their turn after me”.

Like in the old days when baths were on Saturdays and the whole family took a bath on the back porch in THE SAME #2 washtub. They started with Mom & Dad then from the oldest to the youngest ALL IN THE SAME water.

That’s where the saying came, “don’t throw the baby out with the bath water”. (Poor Baby, and poor family where men think this is how submission is interpreted, “I get to go first”).

There are THREE key truths in this passage that inform us on how to implement biblical truth in modern society:

#1Submission is mutual, “21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Yielding the right of way is for both men and women. Actually, it is for the whole family but it isn’t likely self-absorbed children or teenagers will gravitate to this quality too early in life. But it is a truth based upon the golden rule, “Do unto to others as you would have them do unto you” or the Law of Love. Christ modeled this submission for us by being willing to die for our best interest. Out of reverence for Him we follow His lead.

#2Women are equal to men. The passage above says, “wives, submit to your own husbands”. It doesn’t say, “Women submit to men”. There is role clarification for the dynamics between a husband and wife. In the beginning God created humankind in his image and He made them,   “Male and Female”… both are in His image. “Great”, you say, “she still has to give to me first”. Well, read on.

#3She is to submit to her husband “AS SHE DOES TO THE LORD”. The truth is He continues in verses 25 – 31… seven verses for the husband; three verses for the wife. Now ask yourself the question, ”What am I asking my wife and my family to yield to?” Is it self-centered or Christ-centered ideals. The Christian man, because he has surrendered to Someone else to be in charge of His life MUST yield the right of way to Christ. Women love Christ, they love to follow Him, and they devote their lives to serving Him. Are you like Christ? This is where true submission is realized.

The biblical principle for a glorious marriage may not be easy but it’s simple: “wives treat your husband like you treat Christ; MEN act like Christ”. Be willing to die for the salvation of your family, Become the savior (little “s”) of the family and be willing to sacrifice for their good. Ask them simply to follow you as you follow the Lord.

As you surrender to Christ’s Headship, you will see others follow you as the head of the family. As you “yield the right of way” you will witness the family follow suit. Even your teenagers are begging for a role model. They are looking all around for one. You can be the one who models Christ character, someone they can submit too. Let’s be true men of God and love our families as Christ loves them. Then we’ll reap the benefits of our family’s submission.

Tweet: “wives treat your husband like you treat Christ; MEN act like Christ”. – Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

Mike Harrison
Senior Pastor of Church 212