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The Role Of Biblical Manhood Lesson 1: Defining Manhood

It seems the meaning of manhood is misconstrued in our culture. Just turn on any television show and the man looks like a moron. I’ll admit, it’s pretty funny to watch the humor these days. But as the years pass, these images set the model for our children on what manhood (and womanhood) looks like.

When young men ask “what is manhood?,” They will develop their answer by the role models in their homes, or who they see in Hollywood. On both sides, there’s a desperate need to display a true image and practice of biblical manhood.

How do we define it?

So how do we define manhood? How one person characterizes it may be entirely different from another. This is why we must have one standard by which we define all things—Scripture.

I heard a student once say,

The Bible is a thing of the past. This is the future and we must build on a modern way of thinking. —Critical Thinking Classmate

This is our problem today. As culture changes, so do our standards of morality—we don’t know what’s right and wrong anymore because it always changes.

Think of it like this. A desk 6,000 years from now will not suddenly become a pencil. It will always be a desk. Why? Because whoever designed it, intended for it to be—a desk.

In the same way, no man should attempt to redefine something God already defined. Since God is the designer of manhood, only he defines it. Since he designed feminism, only he can define it.

I believe if more Christian men (and women) would look to God’s word and discover their image as he intended it, and exemplify it practically in their lives, the world would be a better place today.

Why does it matter?

Why does it matter if we exemplify biblical manhood or not? The answer is simple. God has called the man to lead. So if men don’t know what that looks like biblically, how can they truly lead?

We’ve heard in John 10:10 that Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy. But what was the first thing he stole in all of history? The answer is man’s headship. Satan knew if he could ruin man’s leadership ability, he could destroy our families and ultimately ruin the planet. Look around today, he has done a good job.

However, redemption has been made, and now it’s time to take back our dominion. Although Christ has made a clear pathway, many haven’t found it and thereby fail to lead.

What’s next

In a new blog series on The Role Of Biblical Manhood, we will unpack the meaning of biblical manhood the way God has designed it. We will see Scripturally what went wrong, and what Christ did to restore it. Lastly, we will find practical ways to live it out in our daily lives.

I invite you to be courageous on this new journey— to be men who lead. We all want to see change in our communities, workplaces, and families—but if it doesn’t start with biblical manhood, it has already ended.

Let’s lead.

Daniel Harrison
Church 212
Worship Pastor
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The Great Commission In Your Home

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18 Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20

These are words from the “Great Commission”, given by Jesus to His disciples at the end of His time on earth. Words that His disciples took to heart and followed, words that we should take to heart and follow as well. I think if we were honest with ourselves, we would all agree that we need to do more in our disciple making endeavors.

Unless you are a full-time missionary to some distant land, I’m sure you feel like you could and should be doing more to spread the Gospel laid out in the book of Matthew; and for the most part, I think you would be right–we can all be doing more to share the love of Jesus to all nations. Whether that means more giving of finances, more prayer time, or actually planning a trip overseas. We need to be doing what we can to reach the people Jesus told us to reach. These are all great and very important. However,

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“We shouldn’t forget the mission field that we have in our very own home.” @JCarroll212 @212Kids @MultiplyingMen

My dad once told me, “the only possessions that you can take to heaven with you is your family.” Now, he said this talking about materialism, and not focusing on accumulating as much stuff as possible. But, the words struck me in a different way. As a husband and father, my first and greatest mission field is my family. As the spiritual head of my household, my job given to me by God is to lead and direct my family towards the things of Christ. Joshua 24:15 “As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.”

Being in the ministry for 15 years, I have seen men who have large, far-reaching ministries, but end up losing their kids and wives because they forget about the harvest field down the hall in their homes. No amount of success in ministry is worth neglecting and sacrificing your family for. We need to be on our knees praying for our wives and kids daily. We need to be asking God to give us the wisdom to lead, guide, and direct our families. We need to be the ones teaching our kids what the Bible says.

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“We should never leave our wives to be the spiritual force in our families, we need to do it.” @212Kids @JCarroll212 @Multiplyingmen

In every heart, of every man, who is a true follower of Christ, lies the desire to do something great for God. But, in our desire to do great things for God and to obey the great commission let’s not forget those that God has entrusted us with that we see across the dinner table every night.

Jeremy Carroll
Church 212 Family Pastor
@212Kids @JCarroll212
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The REAL Man

Return weekly for blogs from our various writers: The following blog is written by Senior Pastor of Church 212, Mike Harrison, on Real Biblical Manhood.


We desire to help men grow into REAL MANHOOD.

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“The REAL HUMAN is the being that came from the hand of God, unspoiled by sin and the fall.”

In a very real sense, the only true human beings were Adam and Eve before the fall, and Jesus. All the others are twisted, distorted, corrupted, samples of humanity. It therefore is necessary to look at humans in their original state and at Christ if we would correctly assess what it means to be human” (Erickson, Introduction to Christian Theology, 162).

Obviously, sin caused a twisted view of what a TRUE human is to look like and manhood has followed suit. The true definition of manhood has been lost within our culture. It is not uncommon for men to be cast as “idiots…clueless..the joke” of most cartoons, sitcoms, romantic comedies and the like. Few men have had role models to mentor them in what real manhood looks like. In Erickson’s statement there are only three perfect humans: Adam & Eve, and Jesus.

Adam & Eve
We do not have a lot of knowledge about Adam & Eve before sin entered their lives. The original couple were made “in His (God’s) image and in His likeness”. We know BEFORE the Fall they were shameless and walked with God. We also know man and woman were in harmony with each other. Adam had a superior intellect because he is commissioned to name all of the animals. Beyond that we don’t have much more information. But we do have Jesus. He is said to be, “the Word made flesh and dwelt among us…” which is God’s Person and thoughts animated so we could know God’s acts & ways (John 1:14 – 18).

Jesus
We can read about Jesus throughout the Bible. In the Old testament we read His pre-history; prophecies about who he would be and what He would do when he comes to earth. In the New Testament we have four eye-witness accounts (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John) of His life and Passion; in Acts His work in the Early Church; and throughout the Epistles of Paul, Peter, James , John & Jude we have His life explained; in Revelation we learn all about Him and His final dealings with mankind. We study the life of Jesus Christ as our model of true humanity.

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“We are seeking to multiply men who act like, respond like, and live like Jesus.” -Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

The New Testament is replete with stories of how Jesus encountered problems, interacted with people, and his personal teachings about how to live our lives. Watching Him through the pages of Scripture, and hearing Him teach through biblical writings we can learn how to be men…REAL MEN. For instance, as Paul teaches, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25 NIV). This is very different from our cultural norms that have men who are self-seeking, self-made and look out for number one (self). Selflessness is a trait which Jesus exhibited throughout His life and modeled for us to follow. This is just one example of how we learn about Jesus and follow His lead.

Conclusion
As we listen and act on what we learn about Jesus, we begin to be transformed into His image (Romans 8:29). That’s the kind of men we want to multiply.

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Join, or start a small group, to study the Bible and interact with other godly men who are all encouraging one another to be like Christ and seek to PRACTICE DAILY what they LEARN about Him.” -Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

In the process you will become A REAL MAN.

Written by Dr. Mike Harrison
Lead Pastor Church 212
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Time is Running Out

936.

That is the approximate amount of weeks that a parent has with their child from birth until they graduate from high school.

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You have been waiting nine months and finally you are holding that small, soft, and helpless being that you helped to create; one of the most amazing of God’s miracles lies quietly (hopefully) asleep in your arms, and time seems to stand still to let you soak it all in.

Fast-forward to today, as a now veteran parent, you know that was the last time that has ever happened. Your world now consists of taking kids to school, picking them up, getting them to soccer, baseball and/or gymnastics and ballet.

You run frantically trying to figure out when to find time for homework, extra practice before the big game on Saturday, and what to eat for dinner tonight; and that was just Monday.

Our world today is full of stuff and many times you may feel that even though you are with your kids, there is a lack of quality time! The number 936 that use to seem huge when they were little, now it gets smaller and smaller, the bigger they get.

The good news is that you are not alone; this is a problem that all parents everywhere struggle with. I am not an expert and I won’t pretend that all of these ideas are exclusively mine. But I can attest from experience that these ideas do work. Here are three ways to improve quality time with your children.

Be intentional

I have a 14-year-old daughter and 9-year-old son and the reality is, the older my kids get, the busier their lives get, and the more intentional I have to be if I want to have influence in their lives.

At our church we use a kids curriculum from the ReThink Group called, “Orange.” One of the verses they use is Deuteronomy 6:6-9 which says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.”

Now you may be wary of binding things on the foreheads of your kids, but the principles in these verses should definitely become practices for parents who want to impact their kids.

Use dinner time (when you sit at home, vs7) to talk about their day and then interject Biblical truth when the opportunity arises.

We don’t walk places as much anymore but what about those car rides to school, to practice, and to run errands? What a great time (when you walk along the road), to grab a kids devotional and have them read a page out of it and discuss it or say a quick prayer about a situation they are dealing with.

Eventually children have to sleep and this down time is a great time to model how to pray or to read them a verse or two before the day is over.

The point is, there are times in our day that instead of just going about the task that is at hand, you can use them to impact the lives of your kids.

Connect with your kids on their level and at their interests

There was a time in my life where I enjoyed firing up the old Nintendo Entertainment System and trying to punch out Mike Tyson, but as a now 40-year-old man those days are gone. Not necessarily because it wouldn’t be fun but because sadly my video game time passed when they added more than two buttons.

My son on the other hand is a video game savant; he usually can beat his newest game in two days flat. I have found that even though I am terrible at video games, it can be a great time to bond and hang out with my son. When my boy is older, hopefully he will think about what a great time he had whooping up on is dad at whatever game it was and cherish those moments as much as I do now.

Listen

If you are the parent of a teenage girl, then you know how difficult and honestly, painful listening can be at times. You undoubtedly will learn and be given more information than you ever wanted in one conversation.

You will now know about every relationship in the entire school. You will be privy to who the teacher is that no one likes because of the amount of homework they give.

You will learn what your teenager is passionate about and what they absolutely cannot stand. Luke 6:45 says, “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” When you spend time listening to your children, you get to know what is in their hearts. And just so you know that listening to all those seemingly pointless discussions are worth it, someone once said, “if you will take the time to listen to the small things, your kids will come to you with the big things.”

936.

The number gets smaller everyday that your kids are alive, but hopefully you realize that there is still time to have a great impact on the lives of your kids.

JeremyCarrol
Jeremy Carroll
Assistant Pastor
Church 212