Category Archives: Biblical Manhood

The Role Of Biblical Manhood Lesson 1: Defining Manhood

It seems the meaning of manhood is misconstrued in our culture. Just turn on any television show and the man looks like a moron. I’ll admit, it’s pretty funny to watch the humor these days. But as the years pass, these images set the model for our children on what manhood (and womanhood) looks like.

When young men ask “what is manhood?,” They will develop their answer by the role models in their homes, or who they see in Hollywood. On both sides, there’s a desperate need to display a true image and practice of biblical manhood.

How do we define it?

So how do we define manhood? How one person characterizes it may be entirely different from another. This is why we must have one standard by which we define all things—Scripture.

I heard a student once say,

The Bible is a thing of the past. This is the future and we must build on a modern way of thinking. —Critical Thinking Classmate

This is our problem today. As culture changes, so do our standards of morality—we don’t know what’s right and wrong anymore because it always changes.

Think of it like this. A desk 6,000 years from now will not suddenly become a pencil. It will always be a desk. Why? Because whoever designed it, intended for it to be—a desk.

In the same way, no man should attempt to redefine something God already defined. Since God is the designer of manhood, only he defines it. Since he designed feminism, only he can define it.

I believe if more Christian men (and women) would look to God’s word and discover their image as he intended it, and exemplify it practically in their lives, the world would be a better place today.

Why does it matter?

Why does it matter if we exemplify biblical manhood or not? The answer is simple. God has called the man to lead. So if men don’t know what that looks like biblically, how can they truly lead?

We’ve heard in John 10:10 that Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy. But what was the first thing he stole in all of history? The answer is man’s headship. Satan knew if he could ruin man’s leadership ability, he could destroy our families and ultimately ruin the planet. Look around today, he has done a good job.

However, redemption has been made, and now it’s time to take back our dominion. Although Christ has made a clear pathway, many haven’t found it and thereby fail to lead.

What’s next

In a new blog series on The Role Of Biblical Manhood, we will unpack the meaning of biblical manhood the way God has designed it. We will see Scripturally what went wrong, and what Christ did to restore it. Lastly, we will find practical ways to live it out in our daily lives.

I invite you to be courageous on this new journey— to be men who lead. We all want to see change in our communities, workplaces, and families—but if it doesn’t start with biblical manhood, it has already ended.

Let’s lead.

Daniel Harrison
Church 212
Worship Pastor

The Great Commission In Your Home

Return weekly for blogs from our various writers: The following blog is written by Jeremy Carroll on Discipleship and Family.

18 Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20

These are words from the “Great Commission”, given by Jesus to His disciples at the end of His time on earth. Words that His disciples took to heart and followed, words that we should take to heart and follow as well. I think if we were honest with ourselves, we would all agree that we need to do more in our disciple making endeavors.

Unless you are a full-time missionary to some distant land, I’m sure you feel like you could and should be doing more to spread the Gospel laid out in the book of Matthew; and for the most part, I think you would be right–we can all be doing more to share the love of Jesus to all nations. Whether that means more giving of finances, more prayer time, or actually planning a trip overseas. We need to be doing what we can to reach the people Jesus told us to reach. These are all great and very important. However,

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“We shouldn’t forget the mission field that we have in our very own home.” @JCarroll212 @212Kids @MultiplyingMen

My dad once told me, “the only possessions that you can take to heaven with you is your family.” Now, he said this talking about materialism, and not focusing on accumulating as much stuff as possible. But, the words struck me in a different way. As a husband and father, my first and greatest mission field is my family. As the spiritual head of my household, my job given to me by God is to lead and direct my family towards the things of Christ. Joshua 24:15 “As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.”

Being in the ministry for 15 years, I have seen men who have large, far-reaching ministries, but end up losing their kids and wives because they forget about the harvest field down the hall in their homes. No amount of success in ministry is worth neglecting and sacrificing your family for. We need to be on our knees praying for our wives and kids daily. We need to be asking God to give us the wisdom to lead, guide, and direct our families. We need to be the ones teaching our kids what the Bible says.

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“We should never leave our wives to be the spiritual force in our families, we need to do it.” @212Kids @JCarroll212 @Multiplyingmen

In every heart, of every man, who is a true follower of Christ, lies the desire to do something great for God. But, in our desire to do great things for God and to obey the great commission let’s not forget those that God has entrusted us with that we see across the dinner table every night.

Jeremy Carroll
Church 212 Family Pastor
@212Kids @JCarroll212

The REAL Man

Return weekly for blogs from our various writers: The following blog is written by Senior Pastor of Church 212, Mike Harrison, on Real Biblical Manhood.

We desire to help men grow into REAL MANHOOD.

“The REAL HUMAN is the being that came from the hand of God, unspoiled by sin and the fall.”

In a very real sense, the only true human beings were Adam and Eve before the fall, and Jesus. All the others are twisted, distorted, corrupted, samples of humanity. It therefore is necessary to look at humans in their original state and at Christ if we would correctly assess what it means to be human” (Erickson, Introduction to Christian Theology, 162).

Obviously, sin caused a twisted view of what a TRUE human is to look like and manhood has followed suit. The true definition of manhood has been lost within our culture. It is not uncommon for men to be cast as “idiots…clueless..the joke” of most cartoons, sitcoms, romantic comedies and the like. Few men have had role models to mentor them in what real manhood looks like. In Erickson’s statement there are only three perfect humans: Adam & Eve, and Jesus.

Adam & Eve
We do not have a lot of knowledge about Adam & Eve before sin entered their lives. The original couple were made “in His (God’s) image and in His likeness”. We know BEFORE the Fall they were shameless and walked with God. We also know man and woman were in harmony with each other. Adam had a superior intellect because he is commissioned to name all of the animals. Beyond that we don’t have much more information. But we do have Jesus. He is said to be, “the Word made flesh and dwelt among us…” which is God’s Person and thoughts animated so we could know God’s acts & ways (John 1:14 – 18).

We can read about Jesus throughout the Bible. In the Old testament we read His pre-history; prophecies about who he would be and what He would do when he comes to earth. In the New Testament we have four eye-witness accounts (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John) of His life and Passion; in Acts His work in the Early Church; and throughout the Epistles of Paul, Peter, James , John & Jude we have His life explained; in Revelation we learn all about Him and His final dealings with mankind. We study the life of Jesus Christ as our model of true humanity.

“We are seeking to multiply men who act like, respond like, and live like Jesus.” -Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

The New Testament is replete with stories of how Jesus encountered problems, interacted with people, and his personal teachings about how to live our lives. Watching Him through the pages of Scripture, and hearing Him teach through biblical writings we can learn how to be men…REAL MEN. For instance, as Paul teaches, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25 NIV). This is very different from our cultural norms that have men who are self-seeking, self-made and look out for number one (self). Selflessness is a trait which Jesus exhibited throughout His life and modeled for us to follow. This is just one example of how we learn about Jesus and follow His lead.

As we listen and act on what we learn about Jesus, we begin to be transformed into His image (Romans 8:29). That’s the kind of men we want to multiply.

Join, or start a small group, to study the Bible and interact with other godly men who are all encouraging one another to be like Christ and seek to PRACTICE DAILY what they LEARN about Him.” -Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

In the process you will become A REAL MAN.

Written by Dr. Mike Harrison
Lead Pastor Church 212

Time is Running Out


That is the approximate amount of weeks that a parent has with their child from birth until they graduate from high school.

Tweet: 936. That is the approximate amount of weeks a parent has with their child from birth until they graduate from high school. @JCarroll212

You have been waiting nine months and finally you are holding that small, soft, and helpless being that you helped to create; one of the most amazing of God’s miracles lies quietly (hopefully) asleep in your arms, and time seems to stand still to let you soak it all in.

Fast-forward to today, as a now veteran parent, you know that was the last time that has ever happened. Your world now consists of taking kids to school, picking them up, getting them to soccer, baseball and/or gymnastics and ballet.

You run frantically trying to figure out when to find time for homework, extra practice before the big game on Saturday, and what to eat for dinner tonight; and that was just Monday.

Our world today is full of stuff and many times you may feel that even though you are with your kids, there is a lack of quality time! The number 936 that use to seem huge when they were little, now it gets smaller and smaller, the bigger they get.

The good news is that you are not alone; this is a problem that all parents everywhere struggle with. I am not an expert and I won’t pretend that all of these ideas are exclusively mine. But I can attest from experience that these ideas do work. Here are three ways to improve quality time with your children.

Be intentional

I have a 14-year-old daughter and 9-year-old son and the reality is, the older my kids get, the busier their lives get, and the more intentional I have to be if I want to have influence in their lives.

At our church we use a kids curriculum from the ReThink Group called, “Orange.” One of the verses they use is Deuteronomy 6:6-9 which says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.”

Now you may be wary of binding things on the foreheads of your kids, but the principles in these verses should definitely become practices for parents who want to impact their kids.

Use dinner time (when you sit at home, vs7) to talk about their day and then interject Biblical truth when the opportunity arises.

We don’t walk places as much anymore but what about those car rides to school, to practice, and to run errands? What a great time (when you walk along the road), to grab a kids devotional and have them read a page out of it and discuss it or say a quick prayer about a situation they are dealing with.

Eventually children have to sleep and this down time is a great time to model how to pray or to read them a verse or two before the day is over.

The point is, there are times in our day that instead of just going about the task that is at hand, you can use them to impact the lives of your kids.

Connect with your kids on their level and at their interests

There was a time in my life where I enjoyed firing up the old Nintendo Entertainment System and trying to punch out Mike Tyson, but as a now 40-year-old man those days are gone. Not necessarily because it wouldn’t be fun but because sadly my video game time passed when they added more than two buttons.

My son on the other hand is a video game savant; he usually can beat his newest game in two days flat. I have found that even though I am terrible at video games, it can be a great time to bond and hang out with my son. When my boy is older, hopefully he will think about what a great time he had whooping up on is dad at whatever game it was and cherish those moments as much as I do now.


If you are the parent of a teenage girl, then you know how difficult and honestly, painful listening can be at times. You undoubtedly will learn and be given more information than you ever wanted in one conversation.

You will now know about every relationship in the entire school. You will be privy to who the teacher is that no one likes because of the amount of homework they give.

You will learn what your teenager is passionate about and what they absolutely cannot stand. Luke 6:45 says, “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” When you spend time listening to your children, you get to know what is in their hearts. And just so you know that listening to all those seemingly pointless discussions are worth it, someone once said, “if you will take the time to listen to the small things, your kids will come to you with the big things.”


The number gets smaller everyday that your kids are alive, but hopefully you realize that there is still time to have a great impact on the lives of your kids.

Jeremy Carroll
Assistant Pastor
Church 212

Be A Man For God’s Sake!

Concept: How is the role of Biblical Manhood, as it pertains to leadership, displayed in the secular workplace and community?

This post was written by Dr. Jeff Suderman, owner of Suderman Solutions, a management consulting company that focuses on organizational leadership and strategy. He lives in Palm Desert, California with his wife and three teens. He can be reached at

Be A Man For God’s Sake!

“Be a man!”

At some point in your life, it is likely that someone has told you this. You’ve probably even said it to someone else. But what does it really mean to “be a man”? Who do we get our advice from when we define manhood? Does God even care about our maleness or is it simply another meaningless label?

You have a choice about how you define manhood. As I work in the marketplace and sit in boardrooms I encounter themes that reveal different ways that we define it. Which of these sources defines your beliefs about who you are as a man?

The Idiot: “Doh!” While Homer’s antics may be amusing, they also depict man as someone who lives as a victim of his whims and desires. While no one readily admits that they do this, we all know people who do. And if we are really honest, we can recount times when we have personally acted this way! Scripture reminds us that “The foolishness of man ruins his way” (Proverbs 19:3 NASB).

The Power-Monger: It is tempting to define our manhood by the amount of power we wield. In Mark 10:37, two of Jesus’ disciples asked to sit at His right and left hands when they died and went to heaven (these were positions of great honor). They wanted to be important – even in the afterlife! Even those who are closest to God can fall prey to the allure of power.

The Fox: The fox is an opportunist who takes care of his own needs first. It may be by sneaking a self-serving clause into a lengthy contract. Or by hiding information in order to save face or provide yourself an unjust advantage. Foxes are good at finding little ways to advance their own agendas. However, scripture reminds us that it is “the little foxes that ruin the vines” (Song of Solomon 2:15, KJV).

The Superhero: The vast amount of movies dedicated to superpowers gives us a glimpse into another way we define manhood – as a hero. Heroes are great – after all, they usually save the day! The problem with a hero is self-sufficiency. They depend upon their own strength. While we can accomplish many things this way, we must remember that “it is the Lord’s purposes that prevail” (Prov. 19:21, NIV) and not the things we can accomplish in our own strength!

The Servant: Sometimes I encounter men who strive for greatness by serving first. Jesus taught the two power-mongers mentioned above that, “The son of man [Jesus] came not to be served, but to serve” (Matt. 20:28). Jesus redefined his role as a man as one who existed to serve the needs of others. He did not come to entertain his own needs, to show power, to outsmart others or be a superhero. He showed us that he could “be a man” by serving others.

So what does it take to “be a man”? Our responses must be rooted in the things that scripture tells us. So remember:

  • You are made in the image of God (Gen 1:27).
  • You were created to be a man – on purpose! “Male and female he created them” (Gen 1:27). “for it was not good for man to be alone” (Gen. 2:18).
  • You were fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).
  • You are called to love and serve your wife and family as Christ loved you (Eph. 5:25). Remember, he died for you!
  • Leadership begins by following (Mark 1:17). Scripture repeatedly shows us that effective leadership accomplishments began by first following God.

As men, how we define manhood also defines how we lead. I’ve worked for idiots and it is frustrating. Power-mongers suck the joy out of work. I have to watch my back whenever I am working with foxes. Superheroes do some great things but I usually find that there’s just not enough space left for me and my abilities when they are in the room. But I always enjoy it when I discover I am working with someone who seeks to serve me! In fact, it somehow makes me want to reciprocate by serving them well!

So how do you “be a man”? One of God’s great gifts to you is free-will. How you choose to “be a man” is up to you. God has provided you with guidance but the choice is yours. So I encourage you to “be a man”. But do it God’s way if you really want to flourish.

Dr. Jeff Suderman
Owner of Suderman Solutions

What Are You Feeding On?

The following post is written by market place leader, Kim Harrell. Kim is National Sales Manager for All Weather Insulated Panels ( Kim is passionate about biblical manhood, disciple-making, and following Jesus.

He is a great example how God calls us from our very livelihoods, leveraging our occupations, for the spread of the Gospel, both in our local cities, and to the ends of the earth. Stay connected for more from Kim.

What are you feeding on?

What we take into our mind, into our heart, and into our soul becomes the foundation for our character. We can literally store good in our heart. But in order to fill our heart with good stuff, we need to post a guard to keep the bad stuff out.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23

This is a verse that all of us as men should know and apply in our lives. This needs to be memorized and put into practice. We need to be very careful of exactly what we allow into our heart.

The truth is: We cannot “unsee” things. Once we have experienced something – especially visually – it can be a difficult emotional and spiritual battle to push out of our minds. Sometimes I wish I could zip off the top of my skull and pressure wash my brain to erase memories I have from my past. But, unfortunately we can’t do that.

Getting to the core

The caution of guarding our heart goes to the core of what we are feeding on. We can’t simply avoid or flee from certain thoughts and behaviors – we must also pursue those things that are God-honoring and will help to develop our character. The Bible cautions us to guard our heart and it also encourages us on what to focus on:

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. Philippians 4:8

What we dwell on will determine our thought life and ultimately develop our character. Many of us often feed on the wrong things. The television, magazines, internet sites, movies, music and other media that we take in, result in patterns of thought. These thoughts result in our behaviors and habits.

No matter what condition we find ourselves in today, Paul tells us that there is hope:

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Romans 12:2

Paul encourages us that we can actually renew our mind and transform our character with the help of God’s Spirit and through our own personal diligence. It is rarely a huge event that affects us.

Tweet: It is hundreds of little events and choices over a period of time that shapes our behavior. -Kim Harrell @multiplyingmen

So What?

What are we feeding on?

  • Do we need accountability with our computer?
  • Do we need to rethink the movies and music we enjoy?
  • Pause to ask ourselves during the day: Is what I am doing right now helping to develop Christ-like character?


Lord, help me to guard my heart. I need your strength and wisdom to make the proper choices. I need men in my life who are serious about their faith to encourage me and keep me accountable. Lord, help me to learn and grow to pursue the things that You would pursue. Help me to fill my heart with what is true, right and honorable and push the negative and harmful stuff out. I pray that I could grow in the character of Your Son.Amen.

Kim Harrell
National Sales Manager
All Weather Insulated Panels
Follower of Christ

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The Purpose of Man

The Purpose of Man

Several ears ago U.S.A. Today released an article of a survey of the most frequently asked questions. At the top of the list, ”Why am I here?” That is an age-old question. We all want to know the answer to that question.

Sadly, in his quest to find an answer many a man, at his peril, has set to answer it for himself. We live in a age where “self-made men” are celebrated. We admire people who seem to know where they are going and how to get there. This latter statement is a good value BUT HOW CAN WE KNOW?

We must begin with God’s Plan and not seek to determine our own.
(Genesis 1:27, 28 NIV)

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” These verses at the beginning not only described man’s creation but state the purpose for which he is created. The answer to our question, “why am I here?” is given by God in the very opening passages of Scripture.

Here are THREE vital purposes God wants us to walk out:

1 – We were created to bear His Image. Look in the mirror right now. What do you see, or better yet, WHO do you see. Is there a self-centered, self-made, somewhat insecure, but masked by a hardened outer shell, man looking back at you? Has your life been peppered with failures and successes, some of which you are proud; others for which you’re ashamed. God wants us to be created by Him not ourselves. He “predestined [us] to be conformed to the image of his Son” Rom. 8:29.

That is why we MUST BE BORN AGAIN (John 3:3, 7). Put on Jesus Christ today to your family on the job, at school or wherever life takes you…it’s your God-given purpose.

2 – We were created to be fruitful and to increase. God destined you for success. But to enjoy God’s success plan you must do it God’s way. In two great promises for prosperity and success God set as an important perimeter, “meditate in my Word day and night”. Primarily He’s saying, “you can think whatever you want at other times, BUT DAY & NIGHT I want you to think MY thoughts” (Joshua 1:6 – 9; Psalm 1:1 – 3).

Being fruitful also means to reproduce. That certainly means through discipling our families to follow the Lord and his ways. But this also applies to having an impact on other men like the ministry of Multiply Men.

We must all be sure we leave a legacy. By the way, you’re leaving a legacy, the question is, “what will your legacy be?’

3 – We were created to rule and to have dominion. Just about all men love conquest movies where a man hero steps up the plate against all odds and takes his place as rightful ruler. It is a God-given drive in the heart of man to rule. Woefully, in an emasculated society men feel subdued and unqualified to lead.

But it is your destiny to take dominion and the leadership role. Your family needs you to, your work demands you take lead, and you church & community are asking you to step up and take charge…UNDER CHRIST’s leadership, of course.

Why are you here?

You were created to reveal to the world Christ’s love and character as a testimony of His transformative power. God made you to be successful to show his glorious greatness through you.

The Lord gave you dominion over the “god of this world” [Satan] and is waiting on you to place your foot on the Devil’s head and take dominion.

You were created to establish God’s rule on the earth through Christ. Step up to your destiny and be the man of God created you to be!

Mike Harrison
Senior Pastor of Church 212

Wives Submit!

In more than 35 years of pastoral ministry I haven’t met a man, married or unmarried, who couldn’t quote this biblical phrase from Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, Submit!” Oh, they may even be un-churched, unsaved, but they knew women are “supposed” to submit to men.

I heard a nationally known preacher once say, “Women, accept it, you are inferior to men.” Of course, in 2015 he would be taken out “behind the wood shed” BY WOMEN!

Why does the Bible say things like this? Isn’t this one of the reasons people say the Bible is so outdated? Could God have been thinking about this century or was he even aware culture would change and we would need a Book that can change with the times? Let me address this last set of questions first.

Truth is truth no matter the age or century.
We know mathematical truth is true throughout eons of time. The laws of physics remain untouched. The Bible is timeless truth written by men who were inspired by the Hoy Spirit.

The Bible is a Divine/human document. Both the words and writers are inspired by God THEREFORE the Bible is “God’s infallible Word”. That settled; let’s now answer this question, “Did God really say, ‘Wives Submit’?”

Tweet: That settled; let’s now answer this question, “Did God really say, ‘Wives Submit’?”

Let’s read the passage in its context: Ephesians 5:21 – 24 NIV 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

In this passage we discover, YES, He said women are to “submit to their own husbands in EVERYTHING.” We probably need to start with a working definition of “submit”.

The word means to “yield the right of way”. Have you ever gone to an intersection and seen a YIELD sign. We learn this means let the other person go first then it’s your turn. Great you say, “then I get to choose whatever the family gets to do and everyone can take their turn after me”.

Like in the old days when baths were on Saturdays and the whole family took a bath on the back porch in THE SAME #2 washtub. They started with Mom & Dad then from the oldest to the youngest ALL IN THE SAME water.

That’s where the saying came, “don’t throw the baby out with the bath water”. (Poor Baby, and poor family where men think this is how submission is interpreted, “I get to go first”).

There are THREE key truths in this passage that inform us on how to implement biblical truth in modern society:

#1Submission is mutual, “21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Yielding the right of way is for both men and women. Actually, it is for the whole family but it isn’t likely self-absorbed children or teenagers will gravitate to this quality too early in life. But it is a truth based upon the golden rule, “Do unto to others as you would have them do unto you” or the Law of Love. Christ modeled this submission for us by being willing to die for our best interest. Out of reverence for Him we follow His lead.

#2Women are equal to men. The passage above says, “wives, submit to your own husbands”. It doesn’t say, “Women submit to men”. There is role clarification for the dynamics between a husband and wife. In the beginning God created humankind in his image and He made them,   “Male and Female”… both are in His image. “Great”, you say, “she still has to give to me first”. Well, read on.

#3She is to submit to her husband “AS SHE DOES TO THE LORD”. The truth is He continues in verses 25 – 31… seven verses for the husband; three verses for the wife. Now ask yourself the question, ”What am I asking my wife and my family to yield to?” Is it self-centered or Christ-centered ideals. The Christian man, because he has surrendered to Someone else to be in charge of His life MUST yield the right of way to Christ. Women love Christ, they love to follow Him, and they devote their lives to serving Him. Are you like Christ? This is where true submission is realized.

The biblical principle for a glorious marriage may not be easy but it’s simple: “wives treat your husband like you treat Christ; MEN act like Christ”. Be willing to die for the salvation of your family, Become the savior (little “s”) of the family and be willing to sacrifice for their good. Ask them simply to follow you as you follow the Lord.

As you surrender to Christ’s Headship, you will see others follow you as the head of the family. As you “yield the right of way” you will witness the family follow suit. Even your teenagers are begging for a role model. They are looking all around for one. You can be the one who models Christ character, someone they can submit too. Let’s be true men of God and love our families as Christ loves them. Then we’ll reap the benefits of our family’s submission.

Tweet: “wives treat your husband like you treat Christ; MEN act like Christ”. – Mike Harrison @MultiplyingMen

Mike Harrison
Senior Pastor of Church 212

The Most Stable Force Ever (by Stephanie Harrison)

The following blog is written by Stephanie Harrison:

Early in 1980’s my marriage, ministry and melancholy self was failing. It had a serious hold on me. I had everything to be happy about–a home, health, and a husband that loved me. I found myself in the pit of despair. Hating the world, all types of people groups and especially females with jazz, attraction or talent. I became a Black Widow spinning my web to hold my husband captive at my will.

Controlling, jealous, bitter and envious of others, I decide to destroy all special relationships my husband held at bay. Locking our selves in our home for years , no friends, family, TV, newspapers, or books. Allowing one thing that was not intrusive, the Bible. Obsession of Mike was continually preoccupying or intruding my thoughts. Fear of losing the love of my life put me in a place of destroying not only my life but destroying his. Mike couldn’t go to the store without me, watch TV, visit his Mother, speak to anyone nor have a friend. When he stepped out of the web so graciously spun, the poison of my mouth and heart accelerated by actions of rage trapped him again. He became paranoid of my next moves. Would I put my fist through another window, another shotgun to my head, jump out of the car into traffic or make a fool of him in public by an outburst of anger?

Hanging on to the one good book in our home and crying out to God in despair, the only hope of deliverance. Reading the word and wanting to be free of the gloomiest spirits, black bile and violent outbreaks of anger. Doing the things I hated and not doing the things I wanted became a constant struggle of impulses of anxiety, guilt, fear and hating my self. Linking all my dark morose emotional offenders including excessive grief, loneliness and alienation from the trauma of my childhood experiences was my Parent’s divorce, a car accident which left facial scars then the rejection to follow with childhood stabs and growing up without either parent.

My husband was controlled, manipulated, abused, and bound by the web of my fears, he never gave up on me and decided to be the Christ I needed. He took me in his arms and said, “I’m going to love the little girl in you until you get healed”. The first sign of a pivotal change from “Unbelief”. Wanting to believe he truly loved me and would be the one to bring healing to my broken unbelieving heart. I decided to give him a chance to love me. He worked with me daily using the tool of God’s unconditional love. 1 John 4: 16. “We have known and believe in the Love God has for us”. I knew God loved me, I didn’t believe he loved me, I knew my Mike loved me, I didn’t believe he loved me. I didn’t believe I was lovable. Mike helped me believe, my believer was restored.

My husband, Mike Harrison, the most stable force ever in my life, a man like Christ, resistant to opposition or ill condition, was not easily moved or disturbed by my extreme emotional disorder, yet planted his feet in a stable foundation of his belief in God’s transforming love. He was enduring in the storm, a permanent fixture, consistent, dependable, not showing or marked by erratic or volatile emotions or behavior. Having no mode of decay; indefinitely long-lived love broke through my melancholy blue funk, dark hole of my destructive path. I am forever grateful.

Tweet: So men, “Love your wife as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her.” Ephesians 5:25 – Stephanie Harrison

You will be astonished at your remarkable results.

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Stephanie Harrison
Executive Pastor
Church 212

Woman, Get Me a Beer!

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“Woman, get me a beer! While you’re there, make me a sandwich.”
While these statements are obviously misogynistic stereotype statements, they exaggerate a real thought process that men in the world (and many in the church community) hold toward being the ‘man of the house.’ I have to admit that I was looking forward to being the head of the house and reaping all of the benefits that my dominant position held. I mean, who doesn’t want to be placed in a position of honor, respect and power, right?

So here I am a newly married man of God. Perfect in every way possible of course and trying to deal with my ohh so imperfect wife. (Life can be so trying when others need to get their stuff straight can’t it?) Here I am a newly married man crying out (complaining) daily to God concerning my wife’s inability to be as godly as I am when all of a sudden I hear a voice speaking to my spirit as clear as day tell me, “I DON’T CARE!” My first thought of course was, “Get behind me Satan.” Of course this couldn’t be from God. God would never speak like this, especially not to a godly man like me. Clearing my throat, I immediately return to my most holy attempt to intercede for my wife to ensure that she maintains her salvation and again I hear, “I DON’T CARE!” I pause for a moment and listen. As I do the voice continues. “I’m not worried about what your wife is doing. I have called you to love your wife like I loved the Church. I came to serve and to die for the church. When you begin to love your wife like I love the church; when you begin to serve her and put her before yourself, then she will trust you enough to follow you. At that point she will come beside you and be your helpmate and you will not have to worry about the things you feel like you are missing from her.”

It seems that Ephesians 5:25 says exactly that; “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Here I sit, blown away with the revelation that being the head of the household means giving everything of myself and placing my family’s needs before my own. Not exactly what I had in mind when I entered into the sacred bond of marriage.

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“I would love to say that I immediately set down all of my needs and desires and never walked in the flesh when dealing with my wife again but that isn’t the way things really work, at least not with me.” – Rob Hopfer @MultiplyingMen

The truth is that it took many more nights and days struggling and fighting with my wife simply because I refused to move in the word of God and trust that He was going to intercede on my behalf by giving us peace in our marriage. As He always does, God came to me in my brokenness. I can relate it to the statement from Jesus to Saul; ‘Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me? It is hard for you to kick against the goads.’ It’s in those moments that I understand the love of God the most. In those times of correction there are no accusation, no judgment; just a father coming to the aid of his son, giving him wisdom and direction in love. Trust Me son. Look at everything I’ve done. I’ve created the heavens and the earth. Look how far I’ve brought you. Remember who I am. Remember what I’ve sacrificed for you already.

OK Lord! I surrender.
It amazes me how it’s never anything I do but what Christ does through me that changes who I am. In the infancy of my walking out this verse I began to witness firsthand the word of God change a heart……mine. Every time I made a decision to seek God instead of voice my displeasure in a situation He changed my heart and my character a bit more. Each time I believed I was wronged and decided to forgive and not push the issue He added to me self control. The times when I placed one of my needs behind one of my wife’s, my needs were taken care in a manner greater than I had asked for. Click to Tweet: “I think most importantly, in those times that I admitted I had hurt her and I was wrong instead of trying to be right, he restored trust and love in my wife.” – Rob Hopfer @MultiplyingMen

See, serving isn’t about a beer or a sandwich. It’s about a heart and a motive. The most important things that you can serve your wife and everyone you come into contact for that matter are the fruits of the Spirit.

As men of God we need to place Him first and trust that His word will never return void. We only have to look at Jesus to understand what He was serving up; love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. He served up the truth and in doing so spread faith, hope and love.

That’s what being a man of God is about. Tweet This:
“That’s what ‘Multiplying Men’ is all about. It’s about serving others in love so that as we sow and water, God will come in, bless it and give the increase.” 
I’m looking forward to serving with each one of you men of God. God bless.

And I leave you with these words, “…but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant. And whoever desires to be first among you, let him be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”
Matthew 20″26-28

Rob Hopfer
Member of Church 212

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